So I recently have had to deal with a lot of rejection, not just in the realm of dating but also professionally. In fact I can almost pinpoint the minute my last relationship failed because it coincided with me not making professional gains. I instantly blamed my partner for holding me back and while I now know that isn't true, I think it added to the end of our relationship.
Now that I'm back in the dating pool, it seems rejection is just part of the game. You have to develop thick skin quickly and an attitude that doesn't allow you to take much of anything personally. I lost someone I was with for 6 years. I can't really waste time pining over someone I met 1 day or a few months ago. But you, the rejectee is not to blame if you experience a level of agony. I primarily blame the person doing the rejecting because often, they try to pull a slow fade and just let things dissolve, rather than being direct and just saying THIS ISN'T GOING TO WORK. Being direct sounds mean but it's actually way more merciful. You spare the other person from thinking things are great and then slowly driving them to wonder and question their every move.
-I legit have people in my life now that I LOVE hanging out with and have become really close friends that at one point rejected me, but the direct manner in which it happened made me respect them enough to not really feel rejected but instead respected. Slow fading people, ignoring them or pretending like you're into them when you're not is just down right selfish. Don't be chicken...just be honest.
One of things I hate most that a lot of girls who plan to reject you do is, after a date, they'll say they had a great time or that "we should do this again"... DON'T SAY THAT CRAP. Yes it's nice, but it creates false hope. Just say, Thanks for dinner or drinks or watever and go. Make it obvious that it's done...that way you decrease the chances of an awkward, hey let's hang out again text. Reject directly and spare the other person the confusion and ego smack.
I much rather a girl say, "hey this was fun, let's be friends" than pretend like they are having an amazing time. They say chivalry is dead but I'd dare say that honesty is much deeper in the grave. People really need to buck up and just learn tact. There's a way to do it that can be less painful and way more merciful.
I'm not really writing this due to anything recent but rather a lot of things I've witnessed over the years. I mean yeah I've been rejected and done some rejection recently but I think I've just come to expect it now, so it really hasn't left me with too much bitterness.
Besides, how can one be bitter when Pokemon just announced that it's introducing a Fairy Type: