Dealing with REJECTION & FAIRY TYPE POKEMON

So I recently have had to deal with a lot of rejection, not just in the realm of dating but also professionally. In fact I can almost pinpoint the minute my last relationship failed because it coincided with me not making professional gains. I instantly blamed my partner for holding me back and while I now know that isn't true, I think it added to the end of our relationship.

Now that I'm back in the dating pool, it seems rejection is just part of the game. You have to develop thick skin quickly and an attitude that doesn't allow you to take  much of anything personally. I lost someone I was with for 6 years.  I can't really waste time pining over someone I met 1 day or a few months ago. But you, the rejectee is not to blame if you experience a level of agony. I primarily blame the person doing the rejecting because often, they try to pull a slow fade and just let things dissolve, rather than being direct and just saying THIS ISN'T GOING TO WORK.  Being direct sounds mean but it's actually way more merciful. You spare the other person from thinking things are great and then slowly driving them to wonder and question their every move.

-I legit have people in my life now that I LOVE hanging out with and have become really close friends that at one point rejected me, but the direct manner in which it happened made me respect them enough to not really feel rejected  but instead respected. Slow fading people, ignoring them or pretending like you're into them when you're not is just down right selfish. Don't be chicken...just be honest.

One of things I hate most that a lot of girls who plan to reject you do is, after a date, they'll say they had a great time or that "we should do this again"... DON'T SAY THAT CRAP. Yes it's nice, but it creates false hope. Just say, Thanks for dinner or drinks or watever and go. Make it obvious that it's done...that way you decrease the chances of an awkward, hey let's hang out again text. Reject directly and spare the other person the confusion and ego smack.

I much rather a girl say, "hey this was fun, let's be friends" than pretend like they are having an amazing time. They say chivalry is dead but I'd dare say that honesty is much deeper in the grave.  People really need to buck up and just learn tact. There's a way to do it that can be less painful and way more merciful. 

I'm not really writing this due to anything recent but rather a lot of things I've witnessed over the years. I mean yeah I've been rejected and done some rejection recently but I think I've just come to expect it now, so it really hasn't left me with too much bitterness. 

Besides, how can one be bitter when Pokemon just announced that it's introducing a Fairy Type:

 

FAIRIES, SON.

PS4 VS XBOX at E3 : INTERNET REACTIONS

The Internet went absolutely nuts today with the official reveal of the pS4. On top of that our worst nightmares for the xbox one were confirmed. However Sony stood up and decided to set them selves apart.  I've been scared for Nintendo for this next gen but now it's Microsoft I'm truly worried about.

Will all this DRM and always on business spell the end for the jolly green giant? Or at least it's console division... NO. Don't be silly. But it will mean plenty of memes like this one:

Because this is the internet after all.

-Chris

BECOMING A FATHER - Motivation

After viewing a lot of baby pictures I totally got a little emotional about the fact that I may not have the chance to become a dad. I love kids and it does bum me out that I may never get the chance to have one of my own.

Let's be real, I'm not getting any younger and I don't see myself getting married in the next year. And even if I did, we'd need a few years of us time because kids do change things! So I'd be lucky if I had kids by 35 at the latest...thats not how I pictured things going.

Such is life. We can only learn from our trials.

-Chris

WAYS TO BE HAPPY

This is a motivational video on how to happy and happier with your life. After a rough time I did a few of these things, this video should inspire you to find something awesome in the little things. How do you make yourself happy?

MOST Social Neighborhood in Chicago

One of things I love about myself is that I will talk to pretty much anybody and it usually ends up pretty well because I tend to make new friends that tend to be equally as awesome at socializing! 

Like if I go out and accidentally lose the friends I came with, I never worry because I'll just make new ones.

I think thats part of the reason I like living in lakeview more than the more hipster areas of Chicago (Wicker Park, Logan Square..etc). It feels like people are way more open to just talking to people here. I never feel closed off from a group OR like the people don't want me there. Now I'm sure this is just me and my negative experiences with "hipsters" vs my super positive experiences with "bros". Like if you go out in Wrigley, there's a good chance someone will randomly buy you a drink. And not someone trying to pick you up, but rather someone who just honestly wants to socialize with you or thinks you're wearing something nice. 

I went out in Wrigley last night and two dudes bought me drinks. Both were straight males and were pretty nice people. One of them was waaaaasted (on his bachelor party), the other was cool but wanted to risk getting into a fight to hit on girls. I offered to be his wingman but failed when I lost him in the crowd, after trying to avoid hitting on the girls that could of resulted in a trip to the hospital. HA. Not my thing but the potential is there to have a good time. Where as in other places I feel like people just aren't that open. 

But as I'm saying this I remember being in Logan Square and meeting a bunch of random people and having a good time...but to give myself credibility I'm going to chalk that up to pure dumb luck. 

And the point of this blog post, was what? 

-Chris